Do you know who that person is that you lie next to at night is, or that person you call your father. In 1981, we discovered we had been living with a stranger. This was a very traumatic year for my family. After finding out who my father the Assistant Pastor really was, I was silent and guarded for a long time, I felt like I did not have a voice because I was so ashamed. I let all the disparaging things that happened in my life control me. I decided to take a step and tell a friend, then I told another, then my children. I realized I had a lot to say. God led me to take another step and share my life with others to help them understand that when you go through shock, pain, and disappointment you have even more to say and should reveal your pain so you can begin to heal.