PUSHING PEOPLE AWAY: How to Stop Sabotaging the Relationships You Actually Want (en Inglés)
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You have never left a relationship because it was going badly. You leave them when they start going well. Something good happens. A key, a plan, a weekend that goes better than expected. And within about three weeks you are cold, busy, restless, and building a case out of something small. You are not cruel and you are not broken. You are defended. Somewhere early on you worked out that closeness costs more than it pays, and you built accordingly, and it worked, which is why it is still standing. Almost every book on this subject is written for the person who got left. This one is written to you. Pushing People Away takes the pattern apart move by move. The silence you call needing space. The test nobody knows they are sitting. The ending you deliver while you are still ahead. The joke that arrives half a second before anything real. Then it shows you what to do instead, in plain sentences you can actually say out loud, badly, with a hot face. Inside this book Why good news arrives as dread, and how to find your own timetable The exit list, a twenty minute inventory that shows you your pattern in your own handwriting How to tell fear from judgment when both feel exactly like being right The ninety seconds between the feeling and the move, and what to do inside them How to come back on day one instead of day nine What to say to somebody who has been guessing about you for years A page written to your partner, for when they ask what is going on This book is for you if You go quiet for days and cannot explain why Kind, available people bore you and unavailable ones feel like chemistry You end things first so that nobody can end them on you You are widely liked and almost nobody knows you There is one person who gave up on you, and you still think about it Grounded in attachment research and written without jargon, lectures or blame. You are not going to become a different person. You are going to stay in the room a little longer, and find out what happens.